By Art Kunkin, Mr. Life Extension
When you want to attract money or accomplish new goals, including living longer, you may find that your negative feelings about yourself are often your worst enemy. Do you freeze up during job interviews or meetings with investors because you aren’t sure you deserve more money? Does a general feeling of inadequacy hold you back from taking action toward new goals?
To rid yourself of the negative feelings that limit future accomplishments, it’s useful to begin by identifying the specific feelings that come and go in your mind.
I have found that “The Sedona Method,” a book by Hale Dwoskin, does an excellent job of identifying six common and important negative feelings plus three positive feelings that matter. Following is Dwoskin’s summary of these nine emotions. (If you email me at firstname.lastname@example.org, I will send you by return email a more complete list plus recommended tools for releasing them).
APATHY: When we experience apathy, we feel as though desire is dead. We can’t do anything and no one else can help. We withdraw and play weak so we won’t get hurt. We only see failure. We have little or no energy.
GRIEF: We cry out in pain hoping that someone else will solve the problem for us. Our bodies have a little more energy than in apathy. Our thoughts and internal pictures revolve around how much we hurt, what we have lost and whether we can get anyone else to help us.
FEAR: We want to reach out but do not because we think we’ll get hurt, the risk is too great. Our bodies have a little more energy than in grief but still mostly painful. Feelings can rise and fall very rapidly, like cool water on a hot skillet. Our pictures and thoughts are about doom and destruction. All we can think of and see is how we will get hurt, what we may lose and how we must protect ourselves.
LUST: We desire possession, we are WANTING. We hunger for money, power, sex, people, places and things but with hesitation. We may or may not reach out. Our energy and sensations are sometimes pleasurable as compared to the first three lower emotions but we rarely feel satisfied.
ANGER: We desire to strike out and hurt others but we may or may not do so. We hesitate! Our thoughts are about getting even and what we are going to do to others but this energy can frighten us or cause us to hurt ourselves.
PRIDE: We want to maintain the status quo. We stop others from movement so they won’t pass us up. Our pictures and thoughts are about what we have done and what we know. If we are even aware of others, we hope that they will notice how great we are to cover over our nagging doubts about ourselves.
COURAGE: While the first six emotions described here mostly include feelings of “I can’t” these next three include feelings of “I can do and change whatever, whenever needed.” In courage, our energy is high, available and clear. Our pictures and thoughts are about what we can do and of how we can support others in being courageous. We are self-motivated and self-reliant while being willing that others succeed. We can laugh out loud, even at our own mistakes. Life is fun!
ACCEPTANCE: We have and enjoy everything as it is. We have no need to change anything. Life is beautiful just as is. Our minds are much less cluttered than in courageousness, mostly quiet and content. Life is joyous!
INNER PEACE: Everyone and everything is part of myself and perfect. There is no need for pictures or thoughts. Our energy is quiet and calm. Life is as it is and all is well.
You are invited to attend the Thursday “Tools For Living Longer” class at the Joshua Tree Retreat Center, 59700 Twenty Nine Palms Highway, Joshua Tree, from 7 to 9 p.m. where we will further discuss methods for releasing these negative feelings and living longer.
Although a donation of $5 per class is requested to cover the cost of printing student materials, no one will be turned away because of a lack of funds.
There will be a sign on the bulletin board at the front entrance of the Retreat Center giving directions to the Meditation Building where this class is being held on Thursday evenings from 7 to 9 p.m.
Art Kunkin is the 84-year young journalist who founded the alternative weekly newspaper, The Los Angeles Free Press in 1964 and later became president of the Philosophical Research Society in Los Angeles. A free download of a magazine cover story interview with Art about his research into stopping aging is available at www.alchemyrevealed.com. Art’s eBook, “Life Extension Alchemy: The Secret of Immortality Finally Revealed,” is also available at a reduced sale price of $9 at that website. Art is planning a Free Press Reunion and requests that former Free press readers, staff and all others interested in the American counter-culture contact him by email at email@example.com. Copyright 2012 by Art Kunkin, all rights reserved.